Wash Your Face: A Skincare Routine For Your Soul

Episode 55: Wash Your Face: A Skincare Routine for Your Soul
 

Hey Love! 💖
In today’s episode, we’re talking about something simple yet deeply transformative: washing your face. No, this isn’t just about skincare—it’s a framework for processing your emotions and taking care of your soul when life feels overwhelming.

When a relationship ends or emotions run high, it’s tempting to spiral into self-doubt or avoidance. But what if I told you that the same steps we use to care for our skin can teach us how to nurture ourselves emotionally? This episode breaks down how the simple act of cleansing, correcting, hydrating, and protecting can guide you through difficult emotions and help you regain clarity, balance, and peace.

• How cleansing your skin mirrors the need to release emotional clutter.
• Why correcting isn’t about “fixing” yourself but about intentional growth.
• The importance of hydration—not just for your body, but for your spirit.
• How setting boundaries is the emotional equivalent of SPF: essential for protection.

By the end of this episode, you’ll have a self-care ritual that’s not just about glowing skin but about glowing from within.

Key Takeaways

• Learn how the steps of a skincare routine—cleanse, correct, hydrate, and protect—apply to emotional self-care.
• Understand why emotional cleansing is vital to clearing away unprocessed feelings and starting fresh.
• Discover how to replenish your energy and build resilience through intentional self-care.
• Gain tools to protect your progress with boundaries and emotional “SPF.”

Resources Mentioned

• Episode 54: What's in Your Bag? Unpacking the Language of Pain vs. Joy 

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Chapters

• 0:00 Transforming Heartbreak Into Emotional Healing
• 17:32 Embracing Glow Through Self-Nurturing

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Listen, baby. Heartbreak isn't the end of the world, but it is the start of your world. See, love isn't just about what someone gives you or how many times it feels like love has failed you. Love is about what you uncover within yourself. I know it hurts, but you are not broken. You're rebuilding and, trust me, your glow up is just getting started. You are now tuning in to Love Frequency, where love grows, so let's go.

Speaker 1: 0:42

Welcome to Love Frequency, the podcast that helps you transform your pain into power. I'm your host and favorite love advocate, nya, here to guide you through the journey of breaking toxic patterns and embracing your highest self. On this podcast. We believe that love is not the problem, honey you are. We believe that love is not the problem, honey you are. That's why, every Wednesday, we ask the tough questions, dive deep into the root of the issue and offer tools to help you get out of your own way. If you're loving what you hear, hit that subscribe button so you never miss an episode. And don't be shy. Rate and review the podcast to help us spread the love and the truth, because when you know you grow, when heartache hits, it's easy to start picking yourself apart, questioning what you could have done differently, but I'm going to need you to pause for a moment, baby.

Speaker 1: 1:51

This isn't about what's wrong with you. It's about what's waiting for you. Heartbreak doesn't just close a door. It hands you a mirror, and I get it. Some of you are too scared to even look, but here's the truth. That reflection isn't there to call you out, it's there to call you in. So before you spiral into what's wrong with me, let me stop you right there. Nothing is wrong with you. What's waiting for you on the other side of that mirror is everything you've been too scared to see. I'm talking about clearing away the emotional baggage you've been too scared to see. I'm talking about clearing away the emotional baggage you've been dragging around.

Speaker 1: 2:30

Let me tell you about my first big breakup. Her name was Toni and we met while I was at tech school in Biloxi, mississippi. It started out as friendship and we would stay up all night laughing and cracking jokes. We had a lot in common and it really set the tone for me to feel safe connecting to somebody I knew. Her family loved them, she knew mine. We had houses together, we built a really good financial economy.

Speaker 1: 3:04

So when that relationship ended, it felt like my whole world had shattered. I had not only lost someone I love, but I lost a friend. I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, and I felt like it was over, that I had nothing else to live for. So, instead of sitting with my pain and giving myself time to heal, I did what so many of us do I tore myself apart. I beat myself up. It was also the first time that I was committed for an attempt on my life.

Speaker 1: 3:38

After I got out, I chose to just avoid it, avoid the reasons why I ended up in that situation, avoid the reasons why I thought the end was the only way. So then, what do we do? Well, I jumped into another relationship, convinced that someone new could fix what I felt could fix the broken inside of me. But this new relationship, it wasn't about love or connection, it was about distraction. I didn't realize it at the time, y'all, but I was carrying let's recap on the last episode the emotional baggage of my breakup with Tony into this new chapter. The arguments, the insecurities, the fear of being left, it all followed me because I hadn't taken the time to process it. It all followed me because I hadn't taken the time to process it.

Speaker 1: 4:24

This wasn't just a one-time thing, y'all. I became a serial monogamous. Each time a relationship ended, I would rush into another one, desperate to prove to myself that I was lovable. But each time it didn't work, the patterns emerged like my tendency to lose myself and my partners, or my constant need for reassurance. But I never stopped to ask myself why. Instead, I told myself I'll do better next time. Or oh, I know I'm not the only one. This time will be the last time. I kept hoping that a new person or a new dynamic would solve the problem that I wasn't willing to face within myself. Does it sound familiar?

Speaker 1: 5:06

One of the turning points came when I found myself in yet another breakup, sitting alone in my apartment on my knees, crying over a woman who had proven to me many times that I didn't matter. I was exhausted, not just physically but emotionally. I felt like I was running on empty. My love frequency was at level zero, chasing relationships that could never truly fill me up. And that's when I realized that the common denominator in all these experience honey was who Me? I wasn't addressing the root cause of my pain. I was putting band-aids on wounds that needed deep care.

Speaker 1: 5:44

I want you to think for a second. What's one pattern you've noticed in your own relationships that you might be carrying from the past? Just take a moment, write it down. Don't write it down, hold it in your mind. But this awareness, this is the first step toward breaking the cycle. But how right we say all these words, we make it sound real good. But how Well it starts with something simple, something almost symbolic washing your damn face.

Speaker 1: 6:20

Washing your face isn't just about skincare. It's a metaphor for how we can care for ourselves emotionally. Let me explain. When we feel overwhelmed by relationships, life or unprocessed emotions, it's easy to get stuck. The weight of everything leaves us paralyzed. It's easy to get stuck. The weight of everything leaves us paralyzed. But just like a good skincare routine restores the skin, an intentional emotional care routine can restore your spirit. Step one letting go of some of that emotional clutter. See, cleansing is the first step in any skincare routine. Why it removes dirt, oil, impurities.

Speaker 1: 7:01

Well, emotional cleansing is just as important. It's about releasing what no longer serves you love. Think about when you've had a rough day and your emotions feel heavy. Maybe you've cried, felt angry or held on to a hurt for too long. Cleansing is your permission to feel it all For me after a tough breakup, I found that, sitting with myself, I do this exercise that my therapist gave me called sitting with your emotions.

Speaker 1: 7:33

I'm going to share it in an upcoming episode because I think it's so profound. But it really allows you to not just sit and feel, which I know some of us are afraid to do, but it helps you call out what you're feeling and walk through how those feelings make you feel, and then it ends with an exercise on releasing it. Sometimes that's all it takes. You don't have to go through the details of what happened, because physically, when we skip cleansing, dirt and oil accumulate and clog our pores. Emotionally, it's the same thing. If you don't cleanse your emotional state, the unresolved shit can just build up, making it harder for new experiences and connections to be able to penetrate and seep in. Picture it like this If your emotions are clogged, you won't be able to let in the good shit when it's time for new beginnings.

Speaker 1: 8:30

Now, cleansing alone isn't enough. See, once you've cleared out the old, you need to take a good look at what's still there. Well, this is where correction comes in. Now, correction is the second step in your emotional skincare routine, and we use this to address the root cause.

Speaker 1: 8:50

In skincare, correction involves targeting those stubborn spots Emotionally. It's about recognizing patterns and addressing the root cause of your behavior or your feelings. You heard that your yep, not them, not what they didn't do Us. For example, after one of my breakups, I realized that I often struggle with boundaries in a big way, and even more than just struggling with boundaries, I struggle with reinforcing the boundaries I've set and because of that, I kept letting people walk all over me, which led to my emotional exhaustion. See, correction isn't about getting everything perfect or fixing it overnight. It's about awareness. It's about the understanding of why you do what you do so you can start making little changes. You do what you do so you can start making little changes. For me, therapy was like the serum I needed to target my emotional blemishes. It was slow, it even took me a while to find a therapist that I vibed with, but the changes I started to feel almost instantly was real. This has given me space to really explore the deeper layers of my pain.

Speaker 1: 10:00

Just like corrective treatments and skincare, this step takes time, but, trust me, the work you do now will create lasting change. So once you started to correct, now it's time to nourish and replenish. It's like hydrating your skin after all the hard work, which is step three hydration pouring back into yourself. Hydration, see, is all about restoring balance. When you hydrate your skin, you bring back moisture, giving it life, and balance your skin. You bring back moisture, giving it life and balance. Emotionally, hydration is about pouring back love into yourself, because after cleansing and correcting, it's vital to restore your energy. It takes a lot out of you, so of course, it's important to pour back into you. For me, this means doing things that have sparked my joy, like coming back to my damn podcast. How you doing, how have you been? It's been a while I've missed you all.

Speaker 1: 11:03

Hydration isn't just physical. It's about ensuring you're emotionally filled up and not running on empty. Think about it like this when you don't hydrate, your skin feels what Dry, tight, dull. If you neglect your emotional hydration, then you're going to feel emotionally drained and disconnected from yourself. Take the time to nourish yourself with the things that restore your spirit. Your emotional glow up will thank you for it. You need it. It's time. And the last step Now, after hydration, comes protection.

Speaker 1: 11:40

These are setting those boundaries for your wellbeing. In skincare, we protect our skin with products like moisturizer and sunscreen to shield it Emotionally. Protection is about setting healthy boundaries and prioritizing yourself and your well-being. This is where I had to learn to say no no to things, no to people, because it drained me, and instead say yes to things that nourished me. I learned to protect my energy by creating space for myself.

Speaker 1: 12:14

Boundaries are your emotional SPF. Without them, you're wide open to the negative energy around you, and I want to be clear. We've talked about boundaries before. These shouldn't be walls that you build against other people or walls that you create through your pain. Setting boundaries with people in my life, for example, I realized that my mental and emotional health improved drastically.

Speaker 1: 12:43

Saying no wasn't selfish. It was an act of self-love. So the boundary of saying no wasn't against people that I'm connecting with. The boundary was I do not like to put myself in situations that are emotionally draining. So no, just like that. Say it with me. No Feels good, don't it? As you cleanse, correct, hydrate and protect, you're not just healing, you're glowing. And the best part, this glow comes from within Every step in this routine. Just like skincare builds on the last, creating a foundation for emotional growth and strength, the more you take care of yourself, the more you shine from the inside out. And here's the thing the glow is already inside of you love. It's always been there.

Speaker 1: 13:43

After a breakup, the hurt can leave us questioning ourselves, wondering if we're broken or if we need to change based on what somebody else has said or what somebody else has done. It's easy to get caught in the trap of trying to fix ourselves because we feel like we're not enough. This is often influenced by somebody else's rejection or criticisms, or simply their absence. But here's the truth you were never broken. You are not broken. The hurt is not a sign that you need to fix yourself, but rather an invitation to reconnect with who you are, who you've always been. Honey, rebuilding your emotional foundation isn't about changing to meet someone else's standard. It's about rediscovering your worth, strength and resilience, which may have been buried under layers of past pain and external influence.

Speaker 1: 14:42

The real glow up begins when you learn to love yourself through the hurt, rather than waiting for someone else's approval or validation. Think of washing your face, a wash in your face. Think of washing your face not just as a physical ritual, but as a symbolic act of cleansing your emotional slate One step at a time, one day at a time, each time you nurture yourself, whether with a moment of compassion, small acts of kindness, you're working to heal from the inside out, and that's what matters. That emotional glow up isn't something someone can give you or take away, because it's already inside, waiting to be uncovered. Rebuilding means embracing grace and self-compassion, not expecting perfection or seeking external validation. Hear me well. Rebuilding means embracing grace and self-compassion, not expecting perfection from other people, not seeking validation from the outside world. It's a consistent journey, one that reminds you that the love you need to heal and grow has always been inside of you, waiting to shine brighter each day. Dear love, when people say sit with yourself, what they really mean is simply this Start by washing your face, baby.

Speaker 1: 16:14

The steps are simple but profoundly transformative when applied to your emotions. Begin with the cleanse. Allow yourself to feel deeply, to cry, release and to clear away what no longer serves you. Only when you make space for new beginnings can healing truly begin. Next move to correction. Take an honest look at yourself and your patterns without judgment. Just be a curious observer. This isn't about fixing what's wrong, but about understanding where you can grow and rebuild stronger. Then prioritize hydration, replenish your energy and your spirit by pouring back into yourself. Engage in activities that nourish your soul, and remember that consistency is key here to maintaining balance. And finally, don't forget to protect. You've done all this hard work. Safeguard your progress by setting boundaries that honor your growth. Surround yourself with people and environments that support your emotional well-being, and let go of what threatens to drain you.

Speaker 1: 17:32

When you follow these steps, you're not just healing. You're creating space to thrive, honey. You're embracing the glow that comes from within, one that reflects the work you've done to nurture yourself so that this glow up. Huh, it ain't about perfection. It's about consistency, grace and honoring your own journey. And remember you're not alone in this process. You're supported, seen and capable of stepping into your next season with strength and love. Let's continue to grow.

Speaker 1: 18:21

Thank you for spending time with me today. Love Next week. We're talking about what happens when you do all this good, good work and you're glowing as shit, and someone comes into your life, but not with open arms, but with open wounds. Are they looking for love or a therapist? Trust me, you don't want to miss this one, and if this episode has fed your spirit and it helped increase your love frequency, hit that subscribe button so we can keep growing together. Don't forget to share this with someone who might need a little reminder to look in the mirror and start their own glow up, because here at Love Frequency, we believe when you know, you grow. I love you.